Hi @taokat Thanks for the message. Well, Monday went ok. Tuesday Went ok, although I did find some contraband partially hidden at home. Thought it was odd only some of it hidden. Wednesday thought maybe, just maybe we are getting somewhere. Then Wednesday night went spectacularly pair shaped. Son came home, obviously in a 'heightened' state, and later in the evening 'kicked off' as he has done in the past. I was at my work running parent teacher interviews so got home to be told husband had called police, was not going to try to,deal,with potential escalation of violence himself. Son was unbelievably belligerent towards police, who were amazing, but he did end up handcuffed and charged with drug offences and has been referred to the Drug Diversion Program run by the Juvenile Justice Teams. It is compulsory attendance or he will be up in front of a magistrate. Police did offer to call crisis care and have him removed, or take him immediately to,juvenile detention. They were at pains to point out that he is clearly from a caring home, that putting him in care will,expose him to kids ten times worse than him. They Really don't want to see that happen. We explained all the things we are doing to get help, Reach out, private psych, school.psych and counsellors, family friend as mentor, True North Expedition in SA booked...they said we are doing everything right as far as they are concerned. Phew. We both stayed very calm, and firm throughout the time the police were searching house, his clothing, school bag. He screamed, abused, threw things, and cried. Then, when the handcuffs came off he Snapchat A pic of himself w police officer in background. Needless too say she went off at him! Incredible! Can't believe she didn't throw the book at him there and then!
So, he has wagged school this afternoon. Spoken to his dad saying he had a session with the school psych today and he is feeling stressed and wants to have an adult conversation with us. Of course he wants it tomorrow. The cynic in me says that's because he wants to tick off tonight. Lucky weather here is awful today. Maybe he will stay put. I had nothing but verbal abuse from him yesterday so am not keen to interact at all today.
hope I can survive the weekend. His mentor had surgery today and is out of action for a while. Firm, fair, calm...
