10-16-2021 05:36 PM - last edited on 12-08-2021 04:41 PM by Philippa-RO
My 11 year old son came out to me this week and told me his bisexual. He told me he likes a boy in his class and that this is the first time he has ever felt like this about a boy.
I’m very supportive of him and have always brought him up to feel he can be whoever he wants and that he can speak to me or his dad about anything.
This is all so new for me and I’m just wondering if any parents have dealt with their kids coming out so young.
10-16-2021 08:40 PM
Hi @Supportivemama ,
Firstly, it's so incredible to hear that you're supportive. It can definitely be a really confusing time as kids go into puberty and really start to explore all there is. I want to highlight how wonderful it is that your son felt comfortable in telling you. It means they have so much trust, and that's a testament to you being a great mother.
Secondly, I can't speak from personal experience around dealing with the circumstance, but I'm curious, what kind of questions do you feel are in your headspace? Raising children, as I'm sure you know, is a very fluid process, and there's no objectively right way in parenting. But it can definitely feel confusing. Have you and their dad talked about it?
Sounds like quite a journey, but I'm sure you'll show love every step of the way.
10-16-2021 09:20 PM
10-17-2021 03:49 PM
Hi @Supportivemama I can understand your concerns about your son and how others might treat him and think that this shows how caring and supportive you are of your son. It is really awesome to hear that his dad is open minded and supportive too .
I also understand your desire to want to hear about some other parent's experiences, so I have looked through and found some posts that you might find to be helpful. Here is a thread about supporting teens with their sexuality and here is a thread from a parent who's daughter has let them know they are pansexual. Hope this helps!
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07-15-2022 03:00 PM
Hi @ConfusedMomma78 , I just wanted to chime in and thank you for your thoughtful peer support here - it warms my heart to see the way that you have supported your son and accepted him with open arms. As an LGBTQIA+ young person myself, I can assure you that sometimes having one supportive adult in your life who accepts you for who you are can truly make all the difference.
That's such a great idea to reach out to your gay friends so that your son has other queer men to talk to and look up to. It sounds like you're really in tune with what his needs might be and that you're doing everything in your power to make sure that he feels supported.
I also wanted to check in and see how you are doing, @ConfusedMomma78 . I know that sometimes when a young person comes out to their family, it can come as a bit of a surprise or a shock, regardless of their attitudes towards their sexuality itself. Did you find it helpful to have a chat with your friends about what's been going on with your son?
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