Hi @MotherOfOne , we're glad that you reached out. How are you feeling after yesterday? I can imagine that receiving a call from the emergency department about your daughter would have been quite distressing, so I hope that she is okay and that you've been able to take a moment for yourself to recover.   I'm very sorry to hear what your daughter is going through at the moment, it sounds as though she is trying to cope with quite a number of things at once. You mentioned that she is blaming herself for her father's passing, which sounds like an incredibly heavy burden for a young person to shoulder, as well as a difficult experience for you to try and support her through.    I'm feeling quite concerned for your wellbeing too, @MotherOfOne . You mentioned feeling traumatised by your own life, which is quite understandable given that you are trying to manage emotionally and financially while also supporting your daughter. It sounds like you're doing the very best you can, as a mother and as a person, in an incredibly difficult set of circumstances. Is there anyone in your life that you trust and feel able to talk to about what is going on?    I definitely hear what you're saying about expensive and overloaded psychology services. I am from a small town myself, so I know how difficult it can be to find the right help in these areas without paying a fortune. If you feel like it would be useful for you or your daughter, Feel the Magic is a free grief support service for young people struggling with loss. They have a great resources hub that might be helpful for you. Otherwise, Standby offers specific services for people who have lost someone to suicide, a lot of which are free as well. See what you think, and if you need any extra support finding services in your local area that work for you, please let us know.    Sending all my best to you @MotherOfOne . You are not alone in this.  ... View more

Hi @Mbfwt and welcome back to the online community. I'm very sorry to hear that your daughter is struggling through an abusive relationship at the moment. I can imagine that that would be very hard to watch as a parent, but it sounds as though you're being very compassionate and empathetic towards her situation, which I'm sure would go a long way in making her feel supported. You mentioned that your daughter thinks that the only way out of her situation is to end her life. Are you feeling concerned for her safety at the moment?     I've noticed that you're from Australia, so if your daughter feels as though she would like to talk to someone about her relationship and get some additional support, she may find it useful to call 1800 RESPECT, which is a counselling line for issues such as intimate partner violence. Otherwise, WESNET is the national peak body for domestic violence if she'd like to check that out as well. Aside from offering her resources, creating a safe space at home for her to talk about her what she is experiencing is a great help, which is sounds like you are already doing.    How are you coping with everything that is going on for your daughter right now? Do you have anyone to support you while you're supporting her? ... View more

Hi @Maria46 ,   It sounds like you've been able to get to the core of your daughter's dislike for school, which is a great step in the right direction. Does your daughter have any ideas of what she would like to do for work in the future?   I'm glad to hear that there is no bullying at play, it sounds like you and your daughter have very open lines of communication.      ... View more

Hi @johnsjacob1 and welcome to the online community!   Recovery from alcohol addiction can be a tough journey, but is certainly something that can be managed and overcome with the right support. Are you looking for support for yourself, or on behalf of a teen?   I've noticed that you're posting from the US. Unfortunately, since we are an Australian organisation, I don't know of any specific services in your area that specialise in addiction, but here's our list of services for international users if you'd like to take a look. Have you or your teen considered getting in touch with a counsellor or a psychologist to talk about addiction and discuss your options?  ... View more

Hi @DoodleBug , thanks for reaching out!   I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is struggling to make friends and that you and your partner are struggling to get her to try new things. Has she been seeing a psychologist or a counsellor to help with her anxiety?   It sounds like things have been really difficult for you this year - trying to support your daughter is a huge challenge, let alone when you have your own health issues to manage at the same time. What have you been doing to look after yourself while you're dealing with all of this?  ... View more

Hi @ConcernedMum79 and welcome to the online community!   First off, I'm really sorry to hear that your son is refusing to go to school and that he is pushing your limits around this. It sounds like you're doing the very best you can and exploring as many options as possible to make going to school more comfortable for him. Has he expressed any particular reason for not wanting to go to school?    I'm also sorry to hear that your experience with your son's first counsellor was not all that helpful, either. It can be tricky finding the right fit with psychologists and counsellors, so hopefully something more constructive comes of this new referral you're looking for.    I can assure you that you are not alone in struggling with your son's school refusal. If you're interested, there is a thread here about school refusal where other parents have shared their experiences with children and teens who do not want to go to school.    This sounds like a very stressful situation to manage, so I am really feeling for you. Do you have any support to cope with everything that has been going on?  ... View more

Hi @tijerotmoz , thanks for reaching out. I'm very sorry to hear about your son's suicide attempt, I can completely understand why you've changed a lot after such a huge life event. How are you and your son both doing now?   It's so lovely to hear that you want to make a comfortable home for you and your son, it sounds like you care very deeply about making sure that he has a safe space at home. Have you spoken to him about how he might like his new room to look?      ... View more

Hi @Vestaria , were are so glad that you've reached out for some support    I'm so sorry to hear that you've been struggling with your daughter's school refusal. I can completely understand why you're feeling frustrated and unsure of what to do next - it sounds like you've been doing everything in your power to support your daughter to get to school, but she just isn't responding. Is she still seeing her child psychologist?   You're definitely not alone in this. If you feel like taking a look, here is a link to our community thread on school refusal where other parents have shared their challenging experiences with getting their teens to go to school. There's also an article on helping your teen who refuses to go to school if you're interested, it has a few tips on what to do when you feel like you've tried everything.    It sounds like you've been managing your daughter's challenging behaviour around going to school for quite some time. Do you have any support in place to help you cope with this?  ... View more

Hi @Mominpain , how are you going?    I've been thinking some more about your daughter's situation and I found it interesting that she chose not to publish the Tiktok videos that you found on her phone. Perhaps she is using these videos as a form of journalling? I know that when I was a teenager, I would journal regularly to express my thoughts and get them off my chest, and some of these were darker thoughts that I didn't want to discuss with my parents in case they became more concerned than I was.    I can definitely see that you checked your daughter's phone from a place of love and concern, which is understandable since she's had some mental health challenges in the past. I also agree that bringing up the videos could damage the trust you have built with her since teenagers can be very protective of their privacy, and it may be best to have a conversation with her without mentioning the videos. I know that you've said she gets frustrated when you question her about what's going on, which makes having this kind of chat even more challenging. If you're interested, here are a few articles about asking questions to open your teen up to talking and some more subtle tips for finding out how your teen is going.   I can see that you're doing your very best during this tough time, and we are all thinking of you      ... View more

Hi @indigorain , I'm so sorry to hear that your son has said these awful things to you. It sounds incredibly challenging to go from having a close connection with your son for 15 years and then for this distance to emerge between you, so I can completely understand why this is bringing you so much pain.   I'm glad to hear that your son is safe with his dad but I'm sorry that he has been attempting to make you feel guilty as well. What have you been doing to look after yourself while all of this is going on? ... View more

Hi @Marshmallow, I'm very sorry to hear that you're having a difficult time with your daughter. It sounds exhausting constantly trying to help and support her, particularly when she's challenging you at every turn. You are not a terrible parent for struggling and feeling overwhelmed by this, I can see that you have a lot of love for your daughter and are simply doing the best that you can under some difficult circumstances. What are you doing to look after yourself at the moment?   I'm also sorry to hear that the psychologist wasn't able to provide much advice. It's really disappointing after you spent so much money on an assessment not to find any closure or practical guidance. How are you feeling about their recommendation for your daughter to try some counselling sessions?    Sending all of my best to you during this difficult time. You are not alone  ... View more