I'm here to have a rant about life. Anyone want to join me?
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Ok so this has nothing to do with my daughter or parenting, but it is about 'adulting', or trying to do so the best way I can. I'm still feeling like ranting, although I've been trying to use all the things I know to keep calm and move on. There are so many components that annoy me, where do I start?! I was approached on Twitter to moderate a new facebook group that a woman was starting up to support suicide survivors. I agreed, as I thought it was a good cause, and fell for the woman's sob story. I'm no expert in anything online but agreed to change things around in the group and muck around with artwork, which took me 6 hours one day. To cut a long story short, I was expected to stay up all hours messaging her about 'fluff' (she's in California), she just kept giving me more and more responsibility despite me telling her about the other things I have in my life. When I finally asked her to give me estimated timeframes on these added tasks, she created a big drama, whinging to her 2 other volunteers about my commitment. She messaged me after being told I was going away and didn't want to be contacted by anyone, my first morning I was away. My first respite in 5 years, and my first whole day and 2 nights off in 2 years. I was fuming, at how rude and self centred this woman was. After that I told I couldn't volunteer for her anymore, and told her why. Her response to me was to leave the group I'd helped setup and moderate, if that's how I felt about (the name of her website). I had already done that, but it was something she could've done herself, and showed me her lack of gratitude and her ego. I feel completely used and taken advantage of. I was putting in so much time, I'd done nothing on my website, hadn't been on here much, had no time to the things I wanted to do, but how dare I set my boudaries! I attract this type, and as much as it grates on me, I am glad I recognised it and got away after only a few weeks. Her other volunteer is swamped but doesn't know how to say no to the guilt tripping.
It's been a full on couple of weeks. My dad's been back in hospital 2 weeks after surgery to have stents put in his lower aorta - one hadn't been pumped up enough and moved, twisting the aorta causing a blood clot and cutting off blood supply to his left leg. It seems that has now been fixed, but the way they blast the clot out has damaged his kidneys. He's going in for another ct scan next Monday to check out his kidneys, but will likey have to see the renal specialist. He's really upset and I hate seeing my dad like this.
I've given up smoking and was hoping my lungs were my biggest problem, as quitting will see them not get any worse. But I'm off to the gyno because I've had 3 operations in 12 years and pesky dangerous cervical cells are back again. 18 months after my last surgery. So a hysterectomy is on the cards. And that's ok, because for me, I'm too old to have another child, but still, it makes that fact very real if that makes any sense. Sorry to any dads who really didn't need to read about another woman's gyno story! So, poo, bum, far out, geez louise, crumbs, fiddlesticks, kung fooey, son of a monkey's bottom, jimini cricket, fudge nuggets!!!
Aaarrrgggh @taokat people like that woman make me so angry.
I just can't imagine how people like that justify their behaviour. Good on you for walking away!
I think it's great to be open to new experiences and to say yes to things, the trick is to say no and exit as soon as you start to feel like it's not right, or fair. So you did great at both being willing to do the work and then telling her what she did wasn't ok.
And I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I really hope he gets better soon.
Might be time to do some self-care over the weekend.
Thank you both @motherbear and @Ngaio-RO! I feel like I've been given a big hug!
It's always good to be around people who appreciate you, and who understand when you have the need to have a whinge. I've told my therapist previously that it seems like I attract this type of person, and to my dismay she said I did! I sometimes take it the wrong way and think the universe is punishing me with these people, but she said the same as you @motherbear, that's it's because we are kind and generous and want to help people and the fault is with them, not me. I am glad that I am able to recognise it now - still annoys me that people can be like that. And it annoys me that people get nasty when you stand your ground.
I love my community here and the support that is both given and received. It's the way things should be!
Yes, my poor Dad. It's his birthday on Sunday, so we're taking him out to lunch. We've also splurged and bought him a coffee machine this year - no golf socks or undies! I love your mother in laws saying about old age! Made me laugh! But you are right about each hospitalisation, each anaesthetic, each treatment becomes a serious issue and it's always in the back of my mind. I am extremely lucky to have both my parents still with us, but old age doesn't end well.
I'm going to have a quiet day tomorrow. I'm writing an article for MamaMia for ReachOut, and I'll do a body balance class at the gym if I get up in time. So yes, some self care and nice words to myself over the weekend for sure! Thank you both for pumping me up.
So the gif challenge is ON @Ngaio-RO, but how do you get yours centred? I just cannot work it out!
Aww thanks for that @Red21, I really appreciate your kind and generous soul. Love is all we need. It's a feeling of belonging that we all require.
I do love the ReachOut forums for the give and take of support, care and compassion. It's so important for me for one, to be involved with others who understand and don't judge.
I feel ya luv and I'm doing the self care! I feel so much better 
Thank you @Lily17
I love what you say about judging being a waste of our neurons. So true!
Believe me, the idea of deleting everything did cross my mind! I decided taking the moral high ground was the more mature action though lol.
I was away for 2 nights and 1 full day, so was determined to block it out for that time - easier to do when you're being pampered and spoiling yourself! But it hit coming home - she's finally taken me down from her website which she was avoiding because she said to me the more volunteers she had up there made her site look more legit! (She asks the public for donations)
Anyway, back on track now and enjoying it.
Your suggestion of massage is a great one. Relaxing for the muscles, but the personal touch probably gives the most benefit. I'll remember that. Dad's kidney function is slowly improving, so we've been told they should eventually get back to normal which is fantastic news!
Lol, i love your idea of having our bits put in for use then taken back out again! Wouldn't that be brilliant! I'm waiting on my appointment, so hoping my bits will be out in the next couple of months lol.
As kids we want to be all grown up, as adults we realise how much simpler life was as a kid!
How are things with you anyway?
