11-26-2018 03:48 AM
11-26-2018 02:28 PM
Hi there @Mazz123, I'm glad to hear reading through some of the other experiences here has been helpful - It sounds like things have been exhausting for you with your teen.
Glad to hear she is getting some help
Are you getting any support for yourself as well? It's not easy supporting a young person who self-harms, and getting support yourself is important.
Let us know how things are going
11-26-2018 02:32 PM
Thank you for sharing @sunflowermom.
I think your point about setting achievable intervals of time is a good one - and a reward at the end is a great idea!
Having an incentive to break the habit is really powerful.
You're doing an incredible job supporting your daughter, one day at a time
01-03-2019 05:46 PM
01-03-2019 11:46 PM
01-03-2019 11:57 PM - last edited on 01-04-2019 09:36 AM by Jess1-RO
Hi my daughter is also 13 years of age and self harms most days , she is in therapy and we have good days and bad days, I have my bad days and sometimes it gets too much and I have a good cry, I take solace in knowing I am doing everything I can including therapy supplements and diet, we got a dog and that is helping as she has to walk him which is getting her out of the house , I have a great support network at my gym and my work . I make sure I don’t freak when I see her self harm, I don’t force conversations and listen without judging and try to understand , I wish she could see herself as I do but I think it’s hornonal , it all started when she got her period and I hope she will come thru the other side of it, just know you’re doing an amazing job
01-04-2019 02:11 PM
Hi @Oceanmom and welcome to the forum - thank you for posting about your daughter, it must be a really scary and painful situation for you.
It sounds like you are being amazingly supportive and caring towards your daughter through this - that she is seeing a counsellor is a great first step. Is your daughter open to getting help?
It is so important that you get help and support through this too - it sounds like you've been dealing with so much on your own - that must be so tough.
Is the person you are seeing for help a counsellor as well? It might be worth giving them a few sessions before deciding if they are the right fit for your or not?
We are all here to listen and support you as well - there are many other parents going through similar situations - I hope hearing from @Dakotah and @sunflowermom has given you some hope and solidarity. You're not alone
01-04-2019 02:17 PM - edited 01-04-2019 02:17 PM
Thank you @Dakotah for some really amazing advice from your experience- and for sharing all of these things that are helping you get through such a painful experience.
Self-harm is not something any parent could feel prepared to deal with - and yet all of you are doing such an incredible job of supporting your daughters, and each other.
11-28-2019 11:57 AM
11-28-2019 02:47 PM
Thank you for coming here to get some support with this situation. It must be so hard for you to see your daughter go through the experience of self harm. It sounds like you taken some huge steps to support your daughter and are looking at all options.
I'd also be interested to see what other parent's tips are around kitchen adjustments. I'm wondering if yourself and your daughter have ever had a conversation about alternatives to self harm? Here is an article we have for young people who are self harming - could be good to read/suggest to your daughter.
Also, I just wanted to see if you have any support available to you right now? Friends, family or even a counsellor?