01-27-2022 08:21 AM
01-28-2022 02:55 PM
Thank you for reaching out for support. It sounds like you're feeling disconnected from your son which must be really difficult to cope with, especially when you're a single mum and must have had a really special bond with him in the past.
Just to clarify, is your son still the USA with your sister? And is it your sister that is pregnant or your son & his girlfriend?
It must feel very hurtful for you knowing your son is spending time with your abuser. Are you worried about his safety? Is your son aware of how dangerous this person is?
I think when you're dealing with trying to heal your relationship with your son, and also dealing with, I imagine, past trauma from your abuser, it's really important to look after yourself first and foremost. This is a lot to cope with in one go. Do you have anyone you can talk to about this? Have you chatted to a therapist about your past abuse? The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is a great resource in the UK that might be a good option for someone to chat with. Their number is 0808 2000 247.
I'm looking forward to exploring this more with you and supporting you through this.
01-28-2022 07:03 PM
01-28-2022 10:52 PM
Hello @Gottasmile , I am sorry to hear about what you have been going through. It sounds like things have been have tough for you and that you care a lot about your son. It also sounds like you don't have any current concerns about the safety of your son or his partner - is that right?
I am sorry that you felt invalidated and disappointed after you spoke with your son's father. It seems that you care about those around you and are trying to look out for them. I hope that your son gets in contact with you soon as it sounds like that would mean a lot for you.
It's really great that you reached out the domestic violence helpline for support. It can be hard to take the step and reach out for support. I hope that you found it to be helpful and a positive experience .
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