Wow thank you so much everyone. I really appreciate all of the replies and sharing of stories. I find it heartbreaking that some kids (and familiies) have to go through so much. And Schooner your story is so sad with yours son's funding being taken away. How spiteful and awful. I am so sorry for you both. How can the general medical community become more aware of mental health issues in teen's? I cannot understand how they can't see certain issues and flag them for mental health? My last GP was still nagging at me to see a Paed again even when all signs pointed to anxiety? I have found also that acupuncture has helped. In fact I will take him back to see the acupuncturist as he has been one of the most helpful people we have seen. My son had a panic attack this year and I didn't realise what it was and he went home from school himself (I was working) and it was only after his acupuncturist described the symptoms of a panic attack that my son was able to say that was what happened to me. Of course more masses of guilt for me. Onwards and upwards though, I can't keep feeling so guilty. The mental health OT is left of centre for sure but it has worked so well. As I said he is not one to sit and talk so been given strategies to deal with what he is going through and more importantly, understanding the emotions going on in his body and mind, is vital. His OT and the Psych at the clinic both said that men often cannot identify emotions other than happiness and anger which has the downside of having other negative emotions that they feel get transferred into anger. ie: shame into anger, guilt into anger etc. So more work needs to done with young boys to identify their emotions to help them deal with it. If anyone has other questions about the OT please fire away. He has been so helpful for us. Thank you all again for listening
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Wow thanks so much everyone. It is really good to offload all these thoughts to people who understand and don't judge. I have felt such sadness reading people's stories for the pain they and their kids are going through but it's so great that they all have support and understanding. We have found the mental health OT to be particularily useful for a teenage boy who WON'T open up to anyone. The OT uses methods to deal with stress and anxiety rather than trying to get to the bottom of it. At this stage, after 6 sessions, he can finally tell his OT that he doesn't understand something rather than going "fine" like many kids here. He has had generalised anxiety I think his whole life but he finds camps and being away from home hardest. Last years camp resulted in him being picked up after one night and then being sick the whole week with a trip to the ED for Zofran. We didn't make that mistake again! He is socially completely fine and on the surface looks like a confident happy boy who is very well liked which is why diagnosis took so long. It staggers me though that not one health professional delved deeper into that. He saw the same GP about Sleeplessness and not wanting to be away from us at night at age 10, Fainting and dizzy spells at age 11 and then the stomach issues which were ongoing. She told us to get a dreamcatcher, sent us to a Heart specialist and told us to eat more vegies respectively for all the issues. How the hell could she not connect the dots? How did we not either really? The fainting was early panic attacks I believe now. It's a very tough place to be but there's more and more understanding around Mental health now which is a step forward. Thank you all for listening.
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I am new to these forums but have started searching for like minded parents of teenagers with mental health issues.
My son is 14 now but has had anxiety his whole life. It was never picked up on or diagnosed until the beginning of this year. We have had zero luck with every medical professional we have seen.
He manifests his anxiety with stomach aches and nausea and extreme tiredness. It is very lucky he has that as otherwise he is a seemingly well adjusted happy teen on the surface but sadly not on the inside.
I have taken him to two Emergency rooms, three different paediatricians, three X-ray facilities, one Gastroenterologist, one Cardiologist and 6 different GP's - all referred by the GP's we have seen. He has had all the tests for why he is periodically nauseous and the diagnosis from the Gastro and the GP was to buy a Nutri Bullet and eat more vegies. The extent of looking into a diagnosis of mental health issues was a "are you going ok at school?" When he answered yes, the idea that it was an emotional cause was disregarded.
I was also told to give him daily enemas to help with his constipation which they thought was the cause of the illness. To give a 12 year old boy daily enemas was very difficult for he and I.
So I finally figured it out that his attacks were from anxiety and had increased to one a week over the end of Year 8 to none at all over the summer holidays. I got a referral to a Psychologist who was an absolute crack pot and got him to do meditation to his happy place and drink water slowly when he is ill and if he is struggling with a maths question, then leave it for the next one. Total waste of time but I found an amazing mental health OT who has been fantastic.
My son has zero self worth and is numb inside and cannot identify emotions as he has blocked painful ones his whole life. It will build up and become a stomach ache every once in awhile - lasting up to a week of not being able to keep even water down.
We are now going down the pathway of medication to help ease his mind so hopefully the counselling can start to help him.
It's been a long and painful journey to get to this point but the sheer uselessness of the medical profession has been what staggers me. And of course the massive guilt that we as parents, didn't see the signs that he was struggling.
This is a long post and I am sorry for writing so much. I guess I had no questions really but just wanted to get it out. Although I would love to hear from any other parents whose children also got stomach aches and nausea from anxiety?
Many thanks if you read this
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