05-18-2016 07:09 PM - last edited on 11-12-2019 03:02 PM by Bre-RO
My daughter who is in year 10 at an independent school has been bullied. The bullying is writing on the back of the toilet door calling her a hoe and suggesting she is involved in sexual acts with another student. This I know is not true. Anyway it took the school some weeks before they removed the graffiti and to deal with the situation.
My daughter does not feel safe at the school and it is a battle to get her to attend.
She has a learning disability which prevents us from just changing schools as our in area school is not an option.
Both her father and I have been to the school and we will keep fighting for her, however, we don't seem to be getting any real support.
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05-19-2016 10:38 PM
05-18-2016 10:36 PM
i went a similar but different situation where my daughter was being physically bullied. It is such a hard thing to live with because all we want for our children is to have a safe and happy life.
Either way the for us the outcome has been the same having kids that have trouble a school. Keep on the talking to the school, may feel that it is failing on deaf ears and at times it will. PERSISTENCE is the key, check out data on the home page it might help you and your daughter.
05-19-2016 12:27 PM - edited 05-19-2016 01:00 PM
Hi @Maggiemay - bullying is far too common, and as a community we are all responsible for addressing bullying, but the school especially so!
It must be so tough to see your daughter going through this, what you've described is really unnacceptable! Your daughter has the right to a safe and supportive learning environment. From what you've said it sounds like the school is not fulfilling its duty of care to your daughter, or upholding the anti-bullying policies that all schools have these days.
It sounds like you are doing the right thing by visiting the school consistently. Get the school's anti-bullying policy - if you haven't done this yet already - by going to the school's website and checking out the policy section. (for example, http://www.penshurstg-h.schools.nsw.edu.au/our-school/rules-policies/school-policies)
Get familiar with the anti-bullying policy and use that in your conversation - hold them accountable to their own policies!
By publicly and privately showing your support for your daughter, you are helping counteract the negative impacts of the bullying. Every time you (or your partner) go to the school to advocate on her behalf you are role modelling that this bullying behaviour is unnacceptable, and I'm sure she feels very supported and loved. Does she have friends at school that can be a support network for her aswell? There's info on our site for young people about being a supportive bystander that might help the.
If you don't get anywhere, the next steps you might consider are to get some one-on-one support from anti-bulling organisation, No 2 Bullying and/or reporting it to the Dept of Educatoin or the police (discriminaiton, abuse and/violece is against the law, after all!).
Let us know how you get on!
05-19-2016 10:38 PM
05-20-2016 02:24 PM
05-22-2016 09:32 PM
she still has access to messenger and is involved in team sports where she gets the interaction with her peers. The school has now set up a buddy system for her which includes her friends and older students who have done the peer support program. Through her netball she has alot of support from her fellow players and also from the coaches that she is assisting with as well as her previous coach that is a very good influence in her life. I understand that social media plays a big part in our kids social lives but we also need to remember that the face to face contact we have as humans is on a differenent level.
We still need that physical contact. It is one thing that is innate in all of us. I understand that social media plays a role to bridge the gap from the distance when we are not together (ie we are not in close proximity) but it cannot and probably will not replace the social interactions we have when we are with each other.
In my opinion the interactions on social media has taken us to a place that is actually detramental to our way of being able to interact in a way that is empathic and social.
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