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05-25-2018 03:23 PM
It's such a difficult age to navigate isn't it @157-1, @seekwisdom and @Mammatofour. It can seem like our beautiful children have been taken hostage by the teenage brain and can be very tough for us as parents to ride these years out.
I do believe they're still in there too @Mammatofour, and after years of my daughter disappearing I do see glimpses of her gorgeous self, only it's even more exciting as she's maturing - seeing flashes into her future self is pretty special.
We've have seen, and sometimes still do, aggression, rudeness, disrespect etc, but it is calming down as she's getting older and getting better at managing her emotions.
If any of you would like to start a new topic we welcome you to do so on the page here. Starting a new topic gives you a better chance of being seen by more members and gaining more support
Hang in there, you're not alone!
06-01-2018 03:25 AM - edited 06-01-2018 03:31 AM
Hi,
We have very much the same issue with our 15 years old daughter i wanted to get some ideas and started to search around..then I found your post...OMG I could not believe it was somebody else written all of this,I thought that I wrote it sometimes ago and forgot about it..our situation is so similar to yours.
My husband and I feel so sad and devastated most of the times,it is like we are traped and can not move anywhere ..
Our daughter is also very headstrong same as you described yours and she was never easy to deal with,but now.. with puberty,hormones and peer pressure It all escalated so much more and in a worse sense too.
i see you posted this last year,and hopefully things are better with you and your daughter,please let me know if you get this,what did you do to resolve the whole issue?
We are going crazy here
06-01-2018 10:19 AM - edited 06-01-2018 11:18 AM
@Aspen Hey I am glad it helped you to connect with someone who has experienced similar, I am sorry to hear about the pain you and your husband are experiencing in this.
I would definitely recommend starting a thread here if you need further support, then the community can provide you some in depth experience around what you're going through. Looking forward to hearing from you.
07-07-2018 02:08 AM
07-07-2018 11:01 AM
Hey there @HopefulMom, I'm sorry to hear that it's been so turbulent between your daughter and yourself. It's great that you have been able to have a cool down period, for both your anger and hers. It definitely sounds like you want to be moving towards (and back too?) a peaceful relationship between the two of you. That is hard to do when emotions are running high and this may take more than a simple conversation. It sounds like some boundaries have been crossed on both of your behalf's.
I'm wondering if you would want to talk to a counsellor over the phone, possibly Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) or even something specific to your concerns at Parentline. There are different numbers for each state so I have found this link if you want to find your state and call through
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07-22-2018 07:39 PM
It's great you have been able to use the forum as a resource, lean on your husband for support and see your daughter's world from a teenagers perspective @Chell47. Have you had any conversations with any professionals?
07-22-2018 09:30 PM
Reading your second post @Chell47 I could feel the pressure had lifted for you! I'm so glad you've found helpful info in the forum as well, and now feel able to share with your husband. That must've been a big burden to be carrying on your own.
Finding out we're not alone in what we're going through with our teens, and being able to talk with other parents who understand does something really positive for us
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