05-11-2017 05:01 PM
Thanks for the update @Torry_Cox I'm not sure there's a huge amount more you can do than what you've done.
Unless you think the Grandma should say something next time he speaks to her poorly. It might give him better insight into the effect he's having on her when he talks to her like that. But I also know that's a big ask for a Grandma. Not many Grandmas are up for conflict.
05-13-2017 11:31 AM
i'm here to find support for parenting a very mean angry 15 year old girl, i want to know i am not alone and it is not all my fault. she sent me an email yesterday telling me what a failure of a mother i am. i know not everything she says is true and someone who tears another person down verbally is in pain themselves... not trying to hijack the thread...
05-13-2017 09:20 PM
Hi @momof1teen, you are not alone in what you are going through, and it's not all your fault. We as parents tend to judge ourselves very harshly, and we imagine that we must be the worst parents in the world. That thought I believe is what then makes us feel we must be the only one's going through this - after all, if we were good parents our kids wouldn't be behaving like this, right! But that is just not true.
You're right, when teens lash out they are struggling themselves, They take it out on us because they know we will always love them. It does hurt when they are so nasty. It's easier said than done, but try not to take it personally, no matter how personal she makes it. Communicating with teens can be a tricky process but there are some great tips at the link here from another topic.
Thank you for sharing. The thread is open to be hijacked by any parent looking for support! Hijack any thread you like!
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03-04-2018 10:06 PM
Hi @Gritgirl, thanks for posting. Did you mean to post three times in a row? We are really enjoying your contributions Just regarding the book, are you posting this with commercial interest in mind or purely as a book recommendation? We can't use the forums to monetise in anyway so just making sure your not doing promotion for this book etc. Thanks again
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05-24-2018 12:08 PM
I found out that the only way to communicate when things are this bad, its through a handwritten letter.
Tell her how much you love her and list good things you know about her and how you understand she might not see you as a friend, but she can trust that you are on her side. That you are a person too and are doing or best to her to be her best.
I had a breakthrough with my dear daughter this weekend and I hope you get to have one also.
05-24-2018 10:30 PM