09-02-2017 04:08 PM
We can only assume the reasons until she speaks out what her real problem is. Are you sure that she is not into a substance abuse or something like that? I'm sorry to say this, but it could be a reason. It's not unusual to say that a teen’s behavior seemed to change overnight because of drug and/or alcohol use.
Bullying or abuse can be a reason too. She might be feeling embarrassed and may be that's why she is not opening up to you.
I think you should take her to a therapist. Find someone who has experience in dealing with teenagers.
09-02-2017 04:19 PM
09-02-2017 05:41 PM
09-02-2017 07:55 PM
Great to hear things are moving in the right direction - your daughter must be feeling better in herself which is wonderful - and of course the flow on of that is that you are able to engage with her with more positive outcomes
She sounds quite similar to my girl who is 16. I think a lot of your daughter's qualities will hold her in good stead as an adult in this world - its just how do we manage and temper it as her parents?
I have found that when my daughter wants to do something and I am not allowing her - that I have lately been saying - I know you think I am being unfair but I have made my decision. And then I try and give her a couple of alternatives so that I am not just closing the door. This seems to make her feel like I am at least considering her feelings and trying to make things work by meeting in the middle.
09-02-2017 08:12 PM - edited 09-02-2017 08:14 PM
09-02-2017 08:32 PM
@Moloko yep - sure sign we are doing a good job is how they are with OTHER people and at OTHER peoples places
Yes im always keen to find new ways to handle the outbursts and arguments. I have a 13 year old boy who is a genius at deflection and debating. He can turn any conversation about something HE didn't do into something I did wrong!!!
We can help each other stay sane
09-02-2017 08:42 PM
09-02-2017 09:14 PM
@Moloko thankyou so much - it really does help just to have other people who understand to share with.
How old is your son? Its great that the relationship between them has improved also. Its so heart warming to see your siblings be there for each other
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