Hey @Madmacca, thank you for sharing this post I am so sorry to hear about this situation it must be so painful.
Am I correct that you're posting from the UK? You can absolutely still use this forum and I would encourage you to for peer support however we won't be able to link you to local referrals/support services as we're an Australian based site You really sacrificed a lot for your son, I can hear you have so much love and compassion for your boy and you just want to connect with him again and have some of that love offered back equally.
You will be comforted to know you are absolutely not alone, in fact I am going to tag some members on this forum who are going through a very similar experience with 16/17 year olds themselves. It is important to remember your Son is turning into a young man, his hormones are through the roof, and his cognitive restructure is changing as his brain will develop right up until 26 years of age (25 for women). His body is also fuelled with testosterone and as you mention, the disease he has managed with your help. I am wondering firstly, is there anything the two of you enjoy doing together? Perhaps a shared experience where he doesn't feel like there's any agenda, such as - going to the football together or shopping? Something where you can both let your guards down and just be in the moment? Also, you are right. Your self-care is very important in this situation, what are some things you could do for yourself after your Son has overstepped boundaries and disrespected you? Do you meditate, do yoga, enjoy baths etc? It is important during this period that you feel supported too.
I will tag some other members for their input :) @taokat @sunflowermom @Orbit64 @jdbza @Schooner
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