Hi @taokat I have been reading on this forum after my daughter's attempt over a year ago. Your old posts and others sharing has helped me alot over this time to feel not alone. I go on the forum and read when I just think I can't do this. Then I know that theres lots of you out there and it feels a little bit better -Thank you. I want to say something as someone that has had various training, experience and interest in brains, trauma, people.....No expert but have been around long enough to learn things and still learning. I have sadly also the shared the experience first hand of what many here are dealing with or have dealt with as a carer/ parent of young one with mental health issues/ suicide attempts and what life looks like after that. Including the experiences with mental health professionals as a parent, which can be a whole thing of itself. I am getting off the point I wanted to make after reading your posted experience. I know nothing of who you went to see.... But the posted experience really made me upset to hear this said to you, another caring mother or how it was said. I raised my eyebrows and two things popped into my head 1) Was this mental health professional very young? Or less experienced....It sounds like they could either be very 'green' so could be into parroting the trauma brain developement theories at you because they were excited about these basic ideas that, yes can feed into supporting young people by helping to interpret their behavior as a form of communication. But just doesn't mean much in real life without the compassionate responses to the behaviours to back it up. or 2) Were they 'burnt out' and operating as a less than optimal communicator to be what sounded like very lacking in compassate attitude towards you, a primary carer of a fragile young one, who has in turn no doubt become fragile through loving the child they care for through All experiences and crisis as we do. Thus this professional may have felt the need to explain ideas in cold way that depersonalized you and made you feel well .. maybe made to feel below that person, by the sound and tone of the post - it sounded pretty yucky and rude to me. Just some musings. I hope you have moved on from the experience and if you need to deal with that person again for some reason that you can feel empowered, or hopefully not deal with them again? Whatever might be going on...It did just not sound like a quite right interaction. Best of luck with you daughters studies and getting along as joyfully as possible on bad days, as I try to do myself also.
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