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My 14 year old has no friends

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Re: My 14 year old has no friends

Thank you so much @LuckyGirl2000 for taking the time to share how things have changed for your son. I'm happy to hear he has honed a skill and is getting ready for college. Definitely shows how much can change and provides a lot of hope to the forum Heart  

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Pleasure! We all can use encouragement Smiley Happy
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Re: My 14 year old has no friends

Hi @Raging 

 

Bullying can be devastating to people and online is a form that is hard to escape from.

Sadly I am not surprised at the parent attitude as the so call friend had to learn these behaviors somewhere.

 

At the same age my son didn't really have any friends but now at 18 he has build a good peer group now he stared university.  What concerns me is the impact on your son of the bullying

 

Has your son "blocked", "unfrended" etc the bully ?

Is there interests that he can explore to make new friends?

 

On a separate note, you say t is effecting your relation ship with your husband? 

That needs to be explored, something happening to your son done by another child shouldn't be causing issues with your marriage.  If it is causing you feelings that are impacting the marriage maybe it is worth thinking about how to manage those?

 

 

 

 

 

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Re: My 14 year old has no friends

we can encourage him

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just wondering if things got any better for your son? My 13 year old daughter is going throufh the same thing and its heartbreaking.
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Hi there - my son is now 19 and a sophomore at the University of Rochester studying computer science. He will be ok, but he is still dealing with depression as a result of being bullied throughout high school. He still struggles with social anxiety.

 

My advice to you is to take action now. I recommend Social Thinking out of Boston - a lot of free curricula online. The following are all things I wish I had done. We tended to believe our son when he said "everything was fine" but then he really lost it freshman year of college and became suicidal. Change schools if you need to to give her a fresh start. Get her psychotherapy. Have her diagnosed if you think there could be autism or Asperger's (I belatedly realized our son is probably a little on the spectrum). 

 

Most importantly, and I'm sure you do this, let her know always that she is loved exactly as she is.

 

I wish you all the love and healing and support possible! I'm sure your daughter is a beautiful person. 

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