01-15-2020 02:30 AM
01-15-2020 10:00 AM
Dear @WAMUM I am glad you found us. Welcome. You really sound like you are heavily involved in your daughter's life and trying your best to create a safe and happy family space.
It sounds like you have been through the wringer trying to work out diagnosis and treatment for your daughter. Unfortunately, trauma can be a precursor for so many anti social disorders and it seems to make professionals avoid labelling the issue. Most of the time therapy is the only treatment available for a while and I assume medication isn't available or desired. Having said that, not all therapy/therapists are equal. Do you need to consider other treatments like Cognitive Behaviour Therapy or EMDR? I'm not sure. Maybe you have. Wouldn't it be nice to have a quick fix?
With Triple P did you do positive parenting strategies? Teens do respond to positive rather than reactive discipline and you might like to google that.
01-15-2020 01:33 PM
Hi @WAMUM ,
Welcome to the parents community, I'm so glad that you've found this space. You sound like an incredibly strong and caring parent to your daughter and other kids, and it sounds like you have done a lot to find different supports for your daughter. Supporting a child through complex mental health issues, especially when you have other kids involved, is an incredibly challenging thing, so I just wanted to acknowledge how much strength and courage you've shown posting here. I hear how much you have been doing for your daughter, and your worry about the safety of your other kids.
@JAKGR8 has given some great advice and support, and I know that we have quite a few other members here who have supported their kids through complex issues, you're not alone, and the community is here for you.
It's great that your daughter is attending CAMHS, it sounds like the kind of multidisciplinary team that they can provide might be helpful for your daughter, but I can understand how frustrating it must be when diagnoses and treatments/ medications keep changing. It can be a challenge finding the right combination of medication/treatment approaches that work for the individual. You also mention that she's attended a number of schools, is she currently engaged with a support team at school for the upcoming school year?
I hear your frustration about a lack of supports for the rest of your family, and I'm wondering if the rest of your children , and yourselves, have been connected with a mental health professional or counsellor to help equip them with tools to help them manage the situation at home? Do you think seeing your GP for a mental health plan for your other children could be an option that could be helpful for you?
In terms of their safety - I agree with you, that they need and deserve to feel safe in their home. Has your daughter's mental health team suggested any strategies for when she is becoming physically violent?
Thank you for reaching out here, I can imagine that all of this must take an enormous toll on you as a parent - we are here to support you.