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Rowanna
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06-07-2018
05:41 AM
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This is a refreshing topic :) I have two I'd like to share - the first one is about my now 15yo daughter - the one without the mental health issues. Two years ago we were walking through the shopping centre and a couple in front of us had their re-useable shopping bags all bunched up together - one of them dropped a bag and they were oblivious to the fact. My daughter picked up the bag, chased up to them and returned it - it was a great reminder that however self absorbed she could be much of the time - there's a fine and generous heart beating under that surly exterior - it was a proud parent moment too :) I run on the weekends and it's taken me three years to feel relatively confident that I can complete 5km within a (to me) reasonable time. Everyone out there on the course is running/walking their own effort - I smile and say something positive where I can these days - it makes a difference to other people and the follow on effect is it makes a difference to me. Well worth it!
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05-03-2018
06:04 AM
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She is seeing a counsellor but has been away on exchange overseas for four weeks and though I asked that she have an appointment waiting for her when she returned I don't believe that's happened. Need to get her back in pattern of behaviour again of going regularly. She was more calm and got homework done last night so that at least should relax her a little. Recognising her spiralling behaviour is definitely a work in progress for me.
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05-02-2018
02:23 PM
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And an extra - I've now got myself booked in for a psych appointment next week. I need way more strategies to deal with this than I can come up with myself. Feels good to have a bit of plan in that regard.
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05-02-2018
02:14 PM
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I am looking for answers here too - my 16yo who's been self harming for about 6 months (I've been aware of it for about three) and had been able to find other coping mechanisms for a bit but I've found evidence of a revisit thismorning. I am kicking myself that I didn't stay up later last night - she'd been unhappy last couple of days and finding school workload rough and really struggling to initiate sitting down and actually facing her homework. She blew up at me when I made a fairly small remark about getting to bed (this is around 11pm) and then she answered her phone to a friend and motioned to me that she'd not be long. She slept in this morning and looked shattered when she got out of bed (way late to have time for breakfast before leaving for school). I am not allowed to touch her and haven't for ages - and she desperately looked like she needed a hug today. Sigh. I figured that she'd be heading for a crash sometime this week going on behaviour but I thought it was still coming and turns out it was last night. A few weeks ago I asked her if I could see her arms (she said to me ages ago that I could ask any question I wanted but she would choose whether to answer) and she said no - that I wasn't ready. Not sure I ever will be to be honest . . . . . Not really answering any questions here. Have been in touch with her school and Headspace this morning and go not joy anywhere - no calls answered. Will see how she is after school today.
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02-27-2018
03:23 PM
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Very new to this - 16yo daughter's school rang three weeks ago as her friend's mum had rung concerned about suicide thoughts and self-harm being discussed with her daughter. Now started the process of counsellors and appointments with Headspace. She is either refusing to communicate with me completely or talking until midnight and being friendly. So confusing to be around. I've spoken to the Headspace people a few times and they've been amazing. My questions relate to whether self harm can in some instances be for attention to some degree? She told me last week that she'd gone to three pool parties with more than 15 friends over January and each time there was more evidence on her body and she seemed disappointed that only three of those friends had said anything or asked how she was. I suggested that her friends might be finding it really difficult to know what to do - I know I am. She very much regrets that her dad and I know about what she's been doing to herself and is quite sure that she and her friends could deal with it just fine on their own - such a big ask of her friends - I am worried that they will find it all too much - plus I can only imagine what their parents might be feeling (if they know). She's also feeling quite free to get home from school whatever hour she likes, sometimes I get a text to say where she's going, sometimes not. I feel as though we have to be so nice and caring all the time so we don't upset her - and then I feel quite angry as well - I know she's not working from a solid mental basis at the moment but the mood swings and self-centred behaviour is really tough to stay calm through sometimes. Thanks for listening - so glad I found this forum and seeing others stories.
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