@Ginger9708 Thanks for your message and thanks for asking. Things are actually going really well. My daughter had a pretty good end of her year academically and is much happier and settled in her new class, which transfers over to home. She still has friendship struggles and conflicts but I am trying to still just listen and only give advice if she asks, learning how to manage her friendships is something she has to do herself and she learns valuable lessons along the way. It seems at this age there are a lot of dramas especially with girls. 😭 She is going to do counseling which I hope helps. We still have the odd outburst and pushing boundaries but on a whole she is a lot more calm and we have gotten a lot closer and our trust in each other is something we both value very much. It's been a difficult journey over the last 18 months, moving schools etc And I'm sure we will have more hurdles to overcome over the next few years, but it was a decision we do not regret. She is a lot stronger and more resilient because if everything she has been through. I feel for you and your daughter as it's hard to see your child hurting at the actions of others. For us moving her to a bigger school allowed her to choose her own friends and if they did have conflicts she could just go hang with other friends, her old school was very small so she had no where to go which was the main cause of how isolated she felt. Please let me know how you get on with your daughter and if there is any way I can help.
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Hi @Moloko I totally understand your daughter feeling upset that there is not a quick fix. I honestly thought ok 6 months and things will be same old again. I probably asked the therapist for a timeline. I agree with @Orbit64 that its important to find a therapist that your daughter is comfortable with. I think my daughter knows by the 2nd or third visit if it is someone she can work with. I am so glad your daughter came to you and expressed that she might be depressed. That is HUGE! It speaks volumes for your relationship and the fact that she wants help. That's one of the biggest steps for healing. The things that helps my daughter on this journey have been NOT isolating in her room, art.... actually any form of self expression, long hot baths and yoga. I have also had to back off and not ask her every 5 minutes if she is okay. I think in some ways my wanting to "fix" her gave her more anxiety. Your daughter will get through this but it will take time. Hugs.... We are here for you!
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