Hi @Moloko I totally understand what you mean that sometimes its hard to parent a strong willed teen. I know when school rolls around there is always added stress and friendship squabbles especially in teen girls. I think if they can even have one good friend to confided in that they are doing great. My daughters best friend goes to another school and they still keep in touch. I think social media adds so much more stress on teen friendships. I agree with you that your daughter needs friends that make her feel good about herself and don't gossip. Sometimes as parents all we can do is be there for the fallout and let them know we are here. Sometimes we get the brunt of their frustration but we love them through it all. You sound like a very caring and loving mom, you have a strong relationship with your daughter and that will help her through this tumultuous time.
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Hi @Moloko I totally understand your daughter feeling upset that there is not a quick fix. I honestly thought ok 6 months and things will be same old again. I probably asked the therapist for a timeline. I agree with @Orbit64 that its important to find a therapist that your daughter is comfortable with. I think my daughter knows by the 2nd or third visit if it is someone she can work with. I am so glad your daughter came to you and expressed that she might be depressed. That is HUGE! It speaks volumes for your relationship and the fact that she wants help. That's one of the biggest steps for healing. The things that helps my daughter on this journey have been NOT isolating in her room, art.... actually any form of self expression, long hot baths and yoga. I have also had to back off and not ask her every 5 minutes if she is okay. I think in some ways my wanting to "fix" her gave her more anxiety. Your daughter will get through this but it will take time. Hugs.... We are here for you!
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